Marriage Tuesday

here’s a little test you can take with your partner…or pass on to someone who could use the insight.

part of growing together and building depth and maturity in our marriages is to be honest…ruthlessly honest…with our evaluation of how we are doing together.   it’s not enough to know how we personally feel about it.   we’ve got to know how our partner perceives it, too.

here are twenty statements for you to respond to.   “1” means you completely disagree with the statement.   “5” means you totally agree with the statement.   take it separately and then compare your answers.   get some dialogue going.

How we’re doing… 1 2 3 4 5
Each of us totally respects the other…
Each of us likes the other…
Each of us finds pleasure and comfort in the other’s company…
We give emotional support to each other…
We have mutually satisfying physical intimacy…
We express our appreciation of each other…
We have worked at creating fond memories…
We have the feeling of trust, friendship, and safety in our relationship…
We are central to each other’s world…
We have deep admirations of the positive qualities in each other…
We both possess a strong sense of morality…
We feel like the problems we have are surmountable…
We both recognize that each of us is special in some important regard…
Our marriage enhances both of us…
We uniquely fit and meet each other’s needs…
We are really fortunate to have each other…
The division of household tasks and childbearing is shared equally…
The success of our marriage is shared equally…
We both share positive and negative emotions in a healthy manner…
We both believe that marriage takes constant attention and work…
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10 thoughts on “Marriage Tuesday

  1. I would have to say without a doubt Harmony is way better at Childbearing than me. I don’t care what they can do with science, we are keeping it that way!

    1. I was definitely going to give the childbearing thing a 1 – Bill did NOTshare equally (to my way of thinking anyway)!

  2. I am curious to who is going to man up and take this quiz. Actually, I am curious if I am going to man up and take the quiz.

    Luke, I hear the TT salon can fix your childbearing problem.

  3. I took the quiz. I didn’t realize until this blog that I have a failing marriage. I quit putting 1’s after awhile because I thought there was a pattern forming and he was trying to trick me. Like those stupid True/False tests your teachers would trick you with, where all the answers were the same! I hated those!

  4. In 7th grade I took a Scantron test and made my bubble answers into the shape of a Christmas tree. It was one of those test to see how that school was doing.

    I am going to have some 1’s as well. Think of it this way.

    I deal with surveys all day at work for hotels and casinos. If you start getting too many 1’s the Hotel Manager will call you and ask what is wrong. Does Mike have your phone #?

  5. Mike if you need help with marriage Tuesday next week… You know with you being in Mexico and all. Brandon and I could put our collective brain together and take care of the blog for you.

  6. Okay… I did “ManUp” and take this quiz… I only had to answer 1 to the childbearing question…. lol… only because I did the childbearing…

    I wonder Brandon, what would you put 1’s on, I am interested to know…

    Your Loving Wife

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