Marriage Tuesday

you know,  king solomon was right.   there really is nothing much new under the sun.

back in the late 70’s,  i was introduced to a book called the christian family, by larry christensen.   the words he wrote back in 1974 are as true today as they were back then.   this quote (and others like it),  helped shape my understanding of basic theology…as well as providing a foundation that wanda and i have built our marriage on for the past 35 years:

Marriage does not depend upon love for its continued existence.   Rather, the love depends upon marriage for its continued existence.

Love should never be allowed to tyrannize a marriage and threaten its dissolution. Couples who come  to the despairing conclusion that “we just don’t love each other any more”; should be told quite simply, “Well, start learning!”  When we have entered into marriage, God commands us to love one another.

Love, from God’s point-of-view, is not the basis for marriage, but the issue or outcome of a successful marriage. It is far more subject to the will than we suppose.  We help cultivate and develop love because we set our mind to do so.  In marriage, we are not the helpless pawns of love.  Rather, we train love to be that willing servant of our marriage.

here is truth for a lifetime:   love does not sustain your marriage.   love depends on marriage for its definition…its significance…and its continued existence. this quote is absolute brilliance!

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3 thoughts on “Marriage Tuesday

  1. Do we really want to listen to somebody from the 70’s filled with Bong Resin?

    Great words. This such simple way to look at love and it’s relation to marriage. Know wonder we cant easily get it wrong.

  2. Do we really want to listen to somebody from the 70’s filled with Bong Resin?

    Great words. This such simple way to look at love and it’s relation to marriage. Know wonder we can easily get it wrong.

  3. Your marriage blog almost always gives me much to chew on. This quote was great! I completely agree, but never thought about it quite this way before.

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