instead, they rely on their own experience or intuition…trusting the subjectivity of their own feelings, over the objective wisdom found in the writings of king solomon or the new testament apostles.
it’s astounding to me how many people these days can read yes or no…do or don’t…black or white…in the bible, but refuse to obey…opting for the selfishness and arrogance of a personal interpretation of maybe…it’ll be okay…close enough…or whatever.
here are two passages that have nothing directly to do with marriage, but speak volumes to the epidemic of marriage and relationship crisis i see everyday:
What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? By no means! We died to sin; how can we live in it any longer? Romans 6:1-2
What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. James 4:1-2
here are two marriage lessons from these passages…
first, stop convincing yourself that it’s okay to disobey god…to disobey scripture…to twist the meaning and application of truth…by telling yourself that god will forgive you. just stop it. it’s embarrassing and offensive to the holiness and justice of god. not to mention the long-term, deep erosion of your character and relationship that comes from such blatant disregard for god’s laws.
second, stop blaming your partner for the fighting and conflict you are having. james clearly writes that the conflict you are having is coming from within you…the desires and selfishness and pride and arrogance that you carry inside of you. stop looking elsewhere, and start looking inward if you really want to tackle the problems you are facing.
so simple. so clear.
so what are you going to do with it?