Know Thyself

Know Thyself“know thyself” is an ancient greek proverb, one of over 100 said to have been given by the greek god apollo’s oracle of delphi and carved into the apollo’s temple of delphi.   that’s an interesting information tidbit.

because it is such an old maxim, dated well before the birth of christ, it has a lot of meanings attributed to it in literature and culture.  one of the most popular is applied to people whose boasts exceed what they really are…and a warning to pay no attention to what the crowds have to say about you.  good warning.

socrates said since he didn’t fully know himself, he had no time to investigate irrelevant things.  wow.  so much for wasting time on internet rabbit trails.

in 1750, benjamin franklin wrote ,  “There are three things extremely hard.  Steel, a diamond, and to know one’s self.” 

i would agree.  it’s taken nearly 60 years…my whole life…to understand myself.  at least to the degree i do right now.  people may say they know me, but the truth is they only know the “me” that i show them.

integrity…the reality of being fully integrated…is when the person we are on the outside is the same person we are on the inside.  integrity is when we say what we will do and we do what we say.  integrity is what we are when no one is looking.  integrity is when we stop trying to fool other people into believing we are something we are not.

integrity is when we stop trying to fool ourselves.

one of the things i know about myself is am a fixer.  i fix things.  i fix problems.  mostly, i fix problems with people.

part of the reason i am a fixer is because i think i am just wired that way.  i have been this way since i was a child.  it is very much who i am.  i suppose that is one of the reasons i gravitated to a people-helping profession…my calling as a minister.

there is a fine line between a fixer and helper.  i don’t always recognize the difference quickly.  neither do the people i am trying to help/fix.  i have to always beware of the damage that can happen when fixing turns to rescuing and when rescuing turns to enabling.  helping people can be a slippery slope.

nevertheless, i will continue to do what i can to help.  marriage issues.  finance issues.  parenting issues.  confidence issues.  anger issues.  fear issues.  self-image issues.  communication issues.  god issues.  blame issues.  career issues.  relationship issues.  abuse issues.  loneliness issues.  rejections issues.  childhood issues.  mommy issues.  daddy issues.  motivation issues.

and because of their “issues”, people will, more often then not, push away my help and continue to be controlled by their issues.

welcome to my world.  this is no fun for a fixer.  i know myself.

today’s catharsis is over.

you can now go back to your regularly scheduled programs.

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