Well, it’s been almost a month. In terms of time, energy, focus, priorities, accomplishing tasks, and keeping perspective…let’s just say the holidays won.
Honestly, I tried to write a few times, but it just wasn’t there. Tonight, it is.
When I get to the end of the day, I want the people I love to believe what I believe. I want people I love to have what I have. Not everything. Just the important stuff.
This isn’t an arrogance or some kind of superiority complex. It’s not me thinking I know better than everyone else. It’s not me thinking I’m right and others are wrong. It’s something much deeper…and much simpler than that.
Most every parent knows when the kids are young, you have huge influence over the way your kids think and believe and act. They trust you. You can speak truth into their lives. You pass on your values. You give them a vision for faith. You can shape their reality. You play the single most significant role in helping them build the foundation the rest of their lives will be built on. Your beliefs are breathed into their little hearts and they lovingly welcome all of it.
And then they grow up. Everybody grows up.
Those little, trusting, moldable, sponges become their own people. They begin to make their own decisions and carve out their own belief system. They decide for themselves what is important, what is true, what is worth investing in. And they become what you had always hoped they would be: independent thinkers.
It’s true for all of us. But I don’t have to like it.
I see people all around me (some who are close…others who I simply try to walk with) who are struggling. Certainly not all, but many:
- They are angry.
- They are afraid.
- They are sad.
- They feel trapped.
- They are worried.
- They never have enough.
- Their marriages are on shaky ground.
- They ignore the spiritual.
- They run from intimacy.
- They struggle for control.
- They have massive blind spots.
- They are self-centered.
- Their love is conditional.
- They are depressed, addicted, abused, or forgotten.
- They don’t respect those who have walked the path before them.
- They don’t pursue wisdom.
- They don’t give sacrificially.
- They always think they know best.
- There is no true humility.
- There is no real joy.
- They don’t experience prolonged peace.
- They live for the moment.
- Their self esteem is built on performance.
- Their security is in the tangible.
- They follow their hearts.
- They seek validation from friends.
- They exist for happiness.
- Their faith is personally defined.
- Their authority is their own conscience.
- Their motivation is their own feelings.
I know a better way. I really do. I wish I could make them follow it. I wish I could make them believe it. I wish I could make them want it.
But I can’t.