Marriage Tuesday

here’s a shocker:  i’ve got lots of people these days that want to know what i think about same-sex marriage.

because it’s such a volatile and polarizing hot button, i’m not feeling particularly inclined to make my little corner of the blogosphere a public forum for people to roll up their sleeves and drop their opinions in opposition (or support) of mine.  sorry.  you’ll need to go find another audience.

but i do have a related issue that’s bugging me today.

look, it’s not much of a secret that many, if not most, conservative evangelical types stand in opposition to any legitimizing of same-sex marriage.  although that group is not particularly united on all of the points of opposition, there’s one consistent fear i’ve heard expressed for the past 15 years…

same-sex marriage is a threat to the traditional, biblical view of marriage.

without disrespecting the depth of debate and disagreement that good-hearted and passionate people can have over the theology or sociology of same-sex marriage (or homosexuality, in general), i want to make an observation to all the husbands and wives i know:

…the biggest threat to your marriage will never be the existence or legalization of same-sex marriage.

so let me list a few real threats.

• flirting at the office
• facebook
• your job
• bitterness
• unwillingness to talk
• careless criticism
• uncontrolled spending
• lack of forgiveness
• high school reunions
• sexual dissatisfaction
• power struggles
• hard hearts
• dishonesty
• letting divorce be an option

wake up!  be alert.  pay attention to the real enemies of your marriage.  don’t get side-tracked with perceived threats.